STATISTICS OF INFIDELITY – WHY MEN AND WOMEN CHEAT

How many people actually engage in an affair in their life? Is that 10, 30 or 80 percent? And are there differences in the probability between a man and a woman? This article wants to bring some light on the issue. The data used in it come from various studies from Europe and the USA.

In European countries, the social expectation of a monogamous partnership is between 60% and 100% according to surveys.

Although loyalty based on a relationship is very important for the vast majority of people, various studies show that many people cheat. The frequency varies by country and study: A survey from the USA reports that 15-25% of women and 25-50% of men have already entered into a non-partnership affair in their lives. 1-5% of women and 4-12% of men indicated that they had agreed to an affair in the past year across all studies. In terms of life, the probability was between 11 and 16% for women and between 21 and 25% for men. In a study of divorced people, 44% of women and 40% of men said they had more than one extramarital sex contact during their marriage. Studies in European countries show a somewhat higher occurrence of infidelity: 4-13% of women and 13-23% of men reported an external relationship last year.
In summary, around 15-50% of respondents state that they have had at least one affair in their life. So there seems to be a big gap between the desire for reliability, loyalty and a monogamous relationship and the need for freedom, variety and sexual adventure.

In European countries, the social expectation of a monogamous partnership is between 60% and 100% according to surveys.

Although loyalty based on a relationship is very important for the vast majority of people, various studies show that many people cheat. The frequency varies by country and study: A survey from the USA reports that 15-25% of women and 25-50% of men have already entered into a non-partnership affair in their lives. 1-5% of women and 4-12% of men indicated that they had agreed to an affair in the past year across all studies. In terms of life, the probability was between 11 and 16% for women and between 21 and 25% for men. In a study of divorced people, 44% of women and 40% of men said they had more than one extramarital sex contact during their marriage.
Studies in European countries show a somewhat higher occurrence of infidelity: 4-13% of women and 13-23% of men reported an external relationship last year.

In summary, around 15-50% of respondents state that they have had at least one affair in their life. So there seems to be a big gap between the desire for reliability, loyalty and a monogamous relationship and the need for freedom, variety and sexual adventure.

How meaningful are these studies?

The studies mentioned are only partially representative. Partly because their participation was voluntary or only certain population groups were interviewed. Using the example of a study by Whisman and Snyder, who have shown that the frequency of cheating is higher in anonymous self-assessments than in interviews, it also becomes clear that the figures are only of limited significance. Some scientists even question the informative value of such surveys and studies, especially if the survey is carried out over the phone. The exact frequencies of infidelity should therefore be interpreted with caution, but there is a tendency.

How often an affair is exposed

According to a statistics, the likelihood that an affair is exposed is around 60%; this is less common in women (58%) than men (63%). 46% of the cheated women and 44% of the cheated men discover it on their own, around 25% of the women or 33% of men experience the affair directly from their partner. By coincidence, around 20% of infidelities come to light.
Almost half of all people cheat once in their life: whether one-off at a so-called one-night stand or in a long-term sex affair. What effects and psychological consequences can a blown or confessed affair have on a relationship?

How women and men react differently to infidelity

Do men and women react differently to an affair of their partner? According to Dr. Ragnar Beer women react more irritable and angry when their partners cheat. Almost twice as many women as men feel hate towards their partner and want to punish him for the affair. According to his study, this is the only major gender difference.
Other studies show yet another significant difference between the sexes: it was worse for women to be emotionally betrayed, for men it was the idea that their partner was having sex with another man. One study asked one question: “What would make you more grief: imagine how your partner has passionate sex with someone else or imagine how your partner has a deep emotional connection with someone else?

The researchers also concluded that men found sexual infidelity to be significantly more harmful than women. For them, the emotional infidelity was more painful. Factors such as cultural conventions or upbringing could largely be excluded, so that the difference is probably evolutionary, according to the authors.